How I Stop the Worry Train

My memory of fertility treatments can be summed up in two words: Worrying and Waiting.⁠

I specifically remember walking the dog one morning and within 15 seconds I experienced the worry-spiral of all worry-spirals.⁠



I started thinking that once we got past setting the date for our egg retrieval, I’d feel more assured and calm. I wouldn’t be so worried!⁠

Then I realized I would be worried about how many eggs we got.⁠

Then I’d be anxious about how many embryos.⁠

There’d be the IVF transfer itself.⁠

The two week wait before we had our pregnancy test – the mother of all worrying, in my eyes.⁠

Wait, there’s more! I’d be anxious to get past the first trimester.⁠

There’d be an anatomy scan to worry about.⁠

Making it to full term was a real concern.⁠

Ok, so let’s say I make it through a healthy and safe labor, and everything went perfectly.⁠

HOLY SHIT, THEN I WOULD HAVE A BABY OUT IN THE WORLD TO TAKE CARE OF!!⁠


Deep breaths. ⁠

Y’all, this ended up being a lightening bolt moment.⁠

It hit me that I needed to stop assuming that there was an easy breezy life on the other side of whatever I was worried about, AND INSTEAD figure out how to manage my worries.⁠

There will ALWAYS be something to worry about. (I’m not just talking about trying to get knocked up anymore, stay with me!)⁠

Figuring out how to bring comfort and calm into your life DESPITE what’s nagging at you, is like discovering a protective Zen blanket.⁠

For me, that meant practicing stopping myself at the first worry stop. Make you mantra, “I’ll cross that bridge when I get there.” and move on.

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