Goal Sabotaging Loophole #5 Planning to Fail
My last post covered the Lack of Control Loophole, and today we’re exploring Loophole #5, the Planning to Fail Loophole.
I’ve talked before about how planning to fail can help you reach your goals by having a back up plan for when you hit a roadblock. However, there is another side to this concept of planning to fail, closely tied to the aforementioned Lack of Control Loophole.
Planning to fail essentially means you’re setting yourself up for failure.
“I’ve been hitting my portion control and no fast food goals, but we’re going on a cruise next week so all bets are off!”
“I’m taking the dog on a long walk, so I just have to walk by my favorite bakery.”
“I need to get some work done, but, sure, I can meet your for one drink before I start.”
You’re setting yourself up for an unnecessary challenge, often with no real expectation of sticking to your goal habits. I am constantly working with clients on how to eliminate elements in their routine that make it harder for them to stay on track; from not keeping trigger foods in the house, to having a gym bag in the car so they’re prepared for a workout.
Think about the plans you make with an ulterior motive. Those times you undermine your goals by putting yourself in situations you assume you will fail. What if you didn’t so readily accept failing? What if instead you focused on how to avoid or overcome the temptation?
In the above examples – going on a cruise, walking past an irresistible bakery, meeting a friend before you start working – you could take an alternate approach. You can go on vacation, but does it have to be a cruise? By all means go on a long walk, but take a different route. Meet a friend after you check at least one thing off your to-do list, or meet them at a coffee shop where you can bring your work with you.
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Don’t stand in your own way. Stop accepting failure before it happens. You are in charge of your actions.
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